Category Archives: Underearning 101

Your “wealth thermostat”

A while ago a colleague sent me a great link to Robert Middleton’s More Clients Blog, with a great piece on Knowing Your Value (5.22.06). I just found it (yes, I got behind when I bought my new computer…) and wanted to pass it on. It’s so true:

Most professionals don’t feel they are being paid what they’re worth, and Robert says that this is part of their scarcity mindset.

For most people, their “wealth thermostat” is set to the amount of money they are comfortable earning. If you can’t see yourself earning $100,000, for example, then as much as you may want to earn that, you won’t do what you need to do to cross that threshold, including charging your clients enough money.

(This is where our money messages come in—“Just who do I think I am to make that much money”, “It would be greedy to ask that much”, “Good people don’t make a lot of money”….)

We are often unconscious about where our thermostat is set, but we always end up in the same range, financially. Look at your social security statement of earnings to get a sense of your thermostat.

Middleton lists a wonderful five step process to help you change your mindset about the value of your services. Check it out!

Money vs. Relationships?

I have to pass on this fabulous article called Friends with Money from the Elements of Feminine Power ezine. Read this excerpt:

Well, for one thing, you KNOW they don’t happen among men, do they?!? Don’t get us wrong – we’re not guy-bashing when we say it. But the truth is, women have a lot more energy wrapped up in worrying about how money affects (or might affect) our relationships than men do. We want to get paid what we’re worth – and we know we’re worth a lot! And we want to be able to buy nice things for ourselves and others. But if you’re like us and our clients and friends, you’ll probably admit: you NEVER want money to come between you and the people you care about…and we women frequently suffer big-time when money and relationships get mixed together.

It is all so true! Women are intensely relational by nature. And we have to balance our desire for relationship with our need to be paid what we’re worth. Good food for thought.

Sometimes people need us to sell to them

A lot of women I work with don’t like to sell. They fear being seen as pushy and would rather wait for someone to come up to them and say “Hello there, can I buy from you, please?” But sometimes people need and want us to sell to them, especially if we have something they could really use.

I was reminded of this when I was reading Seth Godin’s Marketing Blog. At the farmer’s market, a man was really pushing eggplants, which Seth decided to buy. And he was glad he did!

In our permission marketing world, sometimes it’s easy to forget how important selling is. Not because people are so stupid that they need to be sold something. Not because selling is obsolete because you can just search for what you want and then buy it. No, because selling overcomes fear. Fear of closing, fear of commitment, fear of blanching or sauteeing or just plain fear of buying something. (Posted by Seth July 8th)

A lot of people are afraid of eggplants and need help overcoming their fears. So remember, if you have a valuable service, you owe it to people to tell them about it.

Our customers are not mind readers. They don’t know how much we can help them and make their lives better if we don’t tell them. Seth was really glad he bought that eggplant, and he wouldn’t have bought it if someone hadn’t sold it to him.

Rate-Setting: One Sign it’s Time to Raise Your Rates

Rate-setting issues are in the air! I am getting many emails asking about how to set and raise your rates. Fortunately, I’m in the middle of writing an eBook called A Woman’s Guide to Setting and Raising Your Rates. Unfortunately, I can’t write fast enough. (I’m struggling a bit with balancing seeing clients, running groups, and writing. I need a few more hours in my day….) But I want to share some excerpts from my section called “Seven Signs it’s Time to Raise Your Rates”.

1. You have very little price-resistance
As Harry Beckwith, author of Selling the Invisible says: If everyone can afford you, you aren’t charging enough money. If no one can afford you, you are charging too much. So how much should you charge? Beckwith suggests that you should set your price so that about 20% of your prospects don’t hire you because your price is too high for them. This is “price resistance.” Remember, not everyone should be able to afford you!!! If everyone can afford you, you definitely can raise your rates, perhaps significantly. Now if you are losing about half your prospects because you are too expensive for them, that’s too much. Aim for about 20%. Beckwith also reminds us that abut 10% of all people balk and walk away when it comes to price. Perhaps they weren’t serious buyers of your service, it is out of their budget, or they don’t trust you. Who knows! But you simply can’t expect to close every sale. So if you don’t even have 10% price resistance, then it’s definitely time to raise your rates.

This concept was very helpful to me personally. When I raised my rates in January, I had a lot self-doubt. (“Just who did I think I was, anyways?!”) But when I realized I didn’t have much price resistance- most people could afford me- it made it easier to raise my rates and know I wouldn’t lose tons of clients.

Being the “good girl” holds me back

“The Good Girl Syndrome”, which I write so much about, is alive and well in me. I’m a good girl! Good girls want everyone to like them and they don’t want to make anyone mad. They don’t want to rock the boat. Good girls have a hard time negotiating for themselves and asking for what they want and need. It seems to crop up everywhere for women, and if you are self-employed, it is a huge issue!

I notice, for me, how it crops up in my hesitation about self-promotion. For example, I send out an electronic newsletter once a month with, I think, a great article. Then I send out a second email about upcoming events. That’s it. Two emails a month. (And now that I’ve tamed my database, only Puget Sound subscribers will even get this second email! I know I’m annoying my subscribers who live far away when they get local notices. And “Good Girls” hate to annoy people!) But I still agonize. Am I sending out too much email? Am I annoying people? What is the “right” amount? It does pain me that I could be annoying people with too much mail, and yet I know that you have to put yourself out there, even when not everyone welcomes you. So perhaps the answer is not to banish the good girl. I’m not sure that is possible. Beside, I like being a “nice person”. But I’ve got to challenge my internal “good girl”. If I always worry about inconveniencing everyone around me, I won’t get very far….

Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energy

I’ve been thinking a lot about masculine and feminine energy, since I wrote my last newsletter on how women can balance these energies. In my latest newsletter (email mikelann@womenearning for an article copy) I said that obviously society is out of balance and favors the masculine too much.

“However, in your personal life, many of you may need to tap into more of your
masculine energy. This energy will help you work “on” your business, while
feminine energy is wonderful for working “in” your business. When you work on
your business, you can rationally strategize for the future and then take
action. You are able to go out into the world and tell others what you do, even
though this feels risky. You assert yourself and feel strong in your marketing
and focused in your planning.”

Recently, I met Michele Lisenbury Christensen, of www.elementsoffemininepower.com. They talk a lot about masculine vs. feminine energy, and are concerned that many women are hurting themselves in the workplace by subjugating their feminine energy. When women live in an overly masculine world, eventually they burn out. I agree. But what I am wondering about is the difference between self-employed women and salaried women. My hunch is that some women leave the workplace because there is too much masculine energy. (They usually don’t say it that way!) But when women enter the world of self-employment, where everything is up to them, they often shun masculine energy and hence have a hard time promoting their businesses. In the end, it’s all about balance. No surprise there. Now if we can only achieve this balance!

The Key to Successs is Failure

Well, I seem to have fallen off the blog-o-sphere. Since my grandmother died, I’ve felt scattered with my work. Time to pick up the pieces! Actually, things are going quite well. Last month I announced the creation of my “Earn Your Worth—Business Support Groups for Self-Employed Women”. The first group filled within three weeks, maxed with ten participants. A second group is now building. How exciting! The process of figuring out what works and doesn’t work in business is endlessly fascinating for me. Last year I announced a different program (it was a teleseminar coaching program) that launched and then promptly crashed. Actually, I don’t think it ever even made it off the ground, so I cancelled it. Painful and frustrating. But I think that one of my strengths in business is that I simply keep trying. I keep looking for what works. When one thing doesn’t work, I try something different. Easy to say, but hard to do. I’ve had seminars I was very excited about and knew where quite powerful, that I had to cancel. I’ve learned to give myself time to “grieve” over the cancelled program. Then I try something new. As they say, if you keep throwing things at the wall, eventually something will stick! I think as business women, we need to be more proud of our failures. It shows we are out there trying! You have to have a certain number of “failures” on the path to success. It’s a rare person who simply “gets it right” the first time around. As Buckminster Fuller said (the famous mathematician and philosopher) “The reason I know so much is because I have made so many mistakes.”

Archetypes and Branding

Recently, I attended a branding seminar with Chuck Pettis of Brand Solutions, Inc. It was a day devoted to “archetypal branding”- understanding archetypes and how to use them effectively in your branding. Here is the classic definition of a universal archetype, right from Chuck Pettis’ website:

An inherited pattern of thought or symbolic imagery derived from the past
collective experience and present in the individual unconscious. An original
model or type after which other similar things are patterned; a prototype. For
example, the archetypes of the Hero and the Outlaw (e.g., Luke Skywalker and
Darth Vader from the Star Wars movies) are found in many myths, stories and
movies.

I enjoyed the day a great deal and thought a lot about archetypes, Jung and business. Chuck presented twelve archetypes, based on Carol Pearson’s work, and how different companies use the archetype to help them maintain consistency in their branding. The “Explorer” archetype, for example, is the archetype for REI, while the “Outlaw” archetype helps define Harley-Davidson. I seem to resonate with the “Sage” archetype. I think understanding their business archetypes would help a lot of women rejuvenate their business and help bring into alignment their dedication to service with their need for profit.

Death Lends Perspective

Perhaps no one noticed, but I’m a day late posting this blog. My grandmother, LuCylle Davis, passed away last week, and I’ve spent the last days at family gatherings, wakes, her funeral etc. What perspective this lends me! In the midst of such loss, updating blogs and returning emails seems so trivial. Usually, business is at the top of my mind. Perhaps it is too important. My grandparents were self-employed for most of their lives. They owned a saloon at one point. At another point they owned a little company that stocked greeting cards and small toys in drug stores across the state. They worked hard. But they knew how to have fun! From family poker parties to many travels, they enjoyed their life and the lives of their five children and 16 grandchildren. My grandmother loved people and loved a crowd. Yes, she worked hard, but she never lost sight of that which mattered most to her: friends and family. I cry as I write these words, for they are so simple and so important. May we all heed her example. LuCylle Davis 1913-2006. Rest deeply in peace. I will miss you.

Earning Tip: Push vs. Pull Marketing

I’m in a great teleclass with Lynn Grodzki, who wrote Building Your Ideal Private Practice. (See www.privatepracticesuccess.com.) She is a therapist turned coach, who specializes in working with therapists and other “healing professionals” on their businesses. As I often work with a similar group, I was excited about learning from her. One of the things she discusses is the concept of “push vs. pull marketing”. In “push marketing”, you are pushing yourself on other people. This includes aggressive forms of marketing (cold calls etc) as well as advertisements, where you are selling yourself. This type of marketing doesn’t work well for those in the healing professions. It tends to rub against the grain, especially if you have a hard time with the notion of “selling yourself” in the first place. “Pull marketing” is when you put something of value out there that naturally pulls people towards you. I would argue that my newsletter is an example of “pull marketing”. I put out the content and if it resonates, people contact me. A classic example of “pull marketing” is teaching a class. You focus on delivering a great class or seminar, and you naturally pull people towards you. Interested people seek you out. Of course there are many tricks to doing this effectively, but many business owners would feel better, and do better, by focusing on pull marketing.