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Podcast with exExperts

Podcast: Getting divorced? Understand your personal money psychology

Podcast with exExpertsI had a fascinating conversation with T.H. and Jessica, of ExExperts Divorce Etc., on your personal money psychology, and how this comes into play during divorce. If you are divorced, or considering it, listen in so you can move more easily through the divorce process and feel better about money. Money is a huge stressor in divorce—knowing your psychology and what truly motivates you about money is a big help. This was one of my favorite interviews. You will be fascinated!

Podcast: https://exexperts.com/mypost/divorce-and-your-money-personality/

What we talked about (and the time marks in the audio):

1:00– How do you figure out what your personal money motivations are? And how do these relate to your personal financial psychology and money personality?
9:15– What happens to your money personality when you get divorced? How are you impacted emotionally?
13:10– How are men and women different when it comes to money motivations? And how does this play out in divorce?
15:55– What about when someone uses money to control the other person? Money as power…
18:56– When you think of re-partnering and dating again, do you want to find someone with the same money style?
20:48– How to set up your finances when you get divorced– go for “elegant simplicity”, and find the silver lining of divorce
29:09– The power of an annual spending plan for taking control of your new life – How to re-design your new life

Interview suggest magazine

Do you have financial trauma?

Interview suggest magazineI was honored to be interviewed by Suggest Magazine recently, on what to do about “financial trauma”. A large portion of their audience is Gen X Women and being one myself (Generation X is born between 1965 and 1980), we talked about this in particular. Gen X women are used to doing it all themselves– we were the “latch key generation” —  and this is both good and bad when it comes to money…

Enjoy the article – click here to read.

Fresh Blood Killing It After 40 Jolie Downs Podcast

Podcast: The story behind the story—Mikelann shares her journey

Fresh Blood Killing It After 40 Jolie Downs PodcastThis podcast episode is a deep dive into my story over the years as a money coach. As such, this is the most personal podcast I’ve done- my story of how I really started my business, the story of my divorce, struggles with being highly sensitive, you name it. It also covers the spirituality of money and how to step into your own earning power. 25 years of money coaching has yielded many stories, and insights! Jolie Downs really helped bring out my entire story… Her podcast is Fresh Blood—‘Killing it in the age of Ageism With Jolie Downs.  Enjoy the conversation.

Podcast:  081 – Mikelann Valterra – Money Coach, Writer, Speaker & Thought Leader in Personal Finance – simple mindset.

6:00-6:43  “Where does all this money conversation connect with personal growth?” At some point if you don’t address your relationship with money, it will keep you from growing into the amazing woman you are supposed to be…

14:50- 17:00  How have I been able to put myself out there and conquer my fears of being visible? I happen to be highly sensitive, so it is hard at times.  The answer: the more visible I am, the more I have to increase my self-care. What about you?

17:55- 19: 20  One of the biggest helps in my business was when I learned I was an “HSP” — Highly Sensitive Person. It really helped me happier AND be a better business owner – I also realized there was nothing wrong with me!

40:45- 41:15   Watch your money mindset! Don’t ever say you are poor. “Broke is temporary, poor is eternal.” And remember– abundance is an internal state. We get confused sometimes and think true abundance is external to us.

45: 02- 47:07  Listen to this snippet as I share how to earn more money by researching—AND using the power of talking with your close women friends

52: 30- 53:05 How does money become a sacred tool? Here’s how.

divorce money couple

The “Liberty” Vs. “Safe Harbor” Money Personalities (in divorce)

divorce money coupleDare I say there is a silver lining to divorce? Well, there is.  You get a fresh start in so many ways. And your relationship with money is one of these “fresh start opportunities”.

Money is the ultimate tool for designing a new life you love. However, we often act in ways that can sabotage the very life we want to create. Why? Because we are not in touch with our money personality. And if you don’t know yourself, and what motivates you, you will unconsciously make decisions that may not be for your highest good. 

When you understand your own “money personality”, your new financial life after divorce will be so much easier! I joined Jessica and T.H. on the Divorce etc… podcast to talk all about the different money personalities and how to identify your own. (Go here for the podcast episode: Divorce and Your Money Personality : exEXPERTS)

And here is an article I wrote for them. 

So, what is YOUR money personality? Let’s find out. For starters:

WHY DO YOU WANT MONEY?

Whenever I teach a seminar on money, invariably I ask the audience, “What is the point of having money?” Answers start flying and I throw them on a whiteboard. “Retirement, vacations, money for my kid’s college, pay my mortgage, to have fun, to not be stressed about money, charitable giving, to pay the bills, new car….”

From the specific to the general, there are as many answers as there are people.

How would you answer the question—

WHAT IS THE POINT OF HAVING MONEY?

Or another way:

WHY IS MONEY IMPORTANT TO YOU

Most responses boil down to one of two answers:

  • Money is important so I can do what I want to do.

or

  • Money is important so I can feel secure.

If you could only pick one answer, which would it be? Which answer draws you more? Yes, we all want to pick both answers, but which one has a bit more truth for you?……

To read the full article, please go to: Divorce and Identifying Your Money Personality : exEXPERTS

bombshell business podcast

Podcast: What is really important in life? The Bombshell Business episode

I had a great conversation with Amber Hurdle on the Bombshell Business podcast. From her roots as a poor teenage mom to becoming a successful businesswoman, Amber has had quite the money journey. We shared stories of how we both use money creatively to create a life we love, regardless of how much we actually have.  We talked about people’s money personalities and money histories, as well as the importance of using your money for what brings you joy and passion.  Listen to two women having a deep conversation on what really matters in life… Enjoy

Podcast: Create Abundance with A Spending Plan with Mikelann Valterra – Amber Hurdle | Globally Recognized Branding Expert

 

brave women at work podcast

Podcast: From “money fog” to money as life energy

Podcast host Jen Pestikas of Brave Women at Work, interviewed me on why women feel anxious about money, and how to overcome this stress. We dove into what money fog is, and how money is really a form of life energy. And we talked about living our values in money. We even hit how to escape “golden handcuffs” — when we don’t like our jobs.  This is a jammed packed interview that covers our money beliefs, and how to create a nourishing spending plan that literally helps you architect the life you truly want. (And at the beginning, I share how I got into the field of money coaching.) Enjoy it.

Podcast: Brave Women at Work: EP: 107 Get Out of Your Money Fog with Mikelann Valterra on Apple Podcasts

smashing the plateau podcast

Podcast: On being self-employed, pricing, and building your community

Listen in as David Shriner-Cahn and I talk about running your own ship. David loves working with people who have left the corporate world and gone into consulting. This is a huge shift for many professionals, who now have to market, network, and charge for their services. We had a great conversation on why using a personal spending plan is key to figuring out how much you need to charge. And we talked about how paying yourself first is the most important. We also discussed pricing—how do you avoid undercharging? And how do you set and raise your fees while building a sustainable business? And last, we discussed the role of community for business owners. I shared my experiences of how my participation in business groups over the years has been key to my business success. So, if you are self-employed, or thinking of hanging out your own shingle, listen to this episode.

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-transform-your-relationship-with-money/id903756992?i=1000591289823

the shrimp tank podcast

Podcast: The Shrimp Tank Episode—guilty pleasures and the differences between men and women

The Shrimp Tank is a podcast “where street smarts and book smarts collide”. Watch a very fun conversation between me and two great guys—Dan Weedin and Craig Swanson. We analyzed their own money personalities. What is underneath Dan’s love of golf equipment, and what about Craig’s love of taking his family on vacation? We also hit how men and women are different. We talked a lot about my tango hobby and spending money on hobbies in general. Their “plead the fifth” section made me laugh hard when they asked about my own guilty pleasures of spending money on tango shoes. And what advice would I give my younger self and what about my own money mistakes?! This is as real as it gets.

Full show video: https://youtu.be/qxAhTWItBc8

Podcast: https://www.shrimptankpodcast.com/how-to-stop-stressing-about-money

How to escape golden handcuffs and live the life you want

When I met Rebecca, she was in her early forties.

She was a well-respected marketing manager in the technology industry. And she was working an insane number of hours every week. 

At our first meeting she told me, “I’ve never made this much money in my life.”

The crunch

While she was surprised and delighted by her income, she was also becoming increasingly concerned and stressed about her work-life balance. She felt as if she was wearing golden handcuffs. The high salary, benefits, and stock options made her feel she would be crazy to leave the position for something that paid less. 

She didn’t have time to work out or unwind. She had been missing many important events for her friends and family because she was working or recovering from working too much. When she did make it out with friends, or find a way to take a few days off for a vacation, she felt too stressed to enjoy it. 

In the back of her mind, she always wondered if she should find a less stressful job. She yearned for a job where she could spend more time on the weekends with friends and family. She wanted a job that didn’t require her to be on her email every waking moment. She wanted a job that ended before 8:00 p.m. every night.

The fog

She was in a fog about her money. In fact, she had never really looked at her money. She was anxious to really see where she was spending her money. She was worried about what she might find.

What if she found that all this hard work, all this time, wasn’t really helping her save money? What if she wasn’t “making this count”? 

Sometimes she even carried credit card debt. She felt embarrassed. She made “made enough,” so how could she let this happen?

As a money coach, I helped Rebecca look at her expenses and savings for the first time in a long time. 

What she saw

Many things become apparent very quickly. There were “money leaks”—money going to subscriptions and services she no longer cared about. And she saw that she was doing a fair amount of “stress spending” to cope with her crazy schedule.

She felt she was on a money hamster wheel—she needed to make enough to spend on big vacations where she could de-stress from her hard work, only to start the cycle over again when she returned. She was shocked at some of the totals we saw.

However, when she looked at how she wanted to live her life, she also began to see that she did not need to make her current salary. Yes, it was nice, but a fair amount of it was going to support her stress spending, or simply leaking out to unimportant things.

And when we looked at her net worth, we saw that the picture was better than she feared.

The light at the end of the tunnel

Her money fears quickly calmed down as she exited the “money fog”. We dove into what she truly needed and wanted in her life, and this brought more clarity. She began to feel in control of her money for the first time. 

A job opened up at a non-profit she kept her eyes on. Lo and behold, she felt she could make the leap. She knew now that it would pay more than enough for her to enjoy her life and keep her on track for the future. 

The golden handcuffs unlocked and fell to the floor.

Her new schedule gave her time to attend a regular yoga class. She re-connected with friends she loved dearly. She started sleeping better, too.

This is the power of financial clarity and creating a nourishing spending plan. The door to your ideal life unlocks and opens for you.

the retirement wisdom podcast

Podcast: Money and Emotions—The Retirement Wisdom Episode

Most of us want to enjoy our retirement someday. And money plays a role—an emotional role. So if you are curious about the emotional side of money, this podcast episode is for you.  Joe Casey, from the Retirement Wisdom podcast, dove into exploring our money beliefs and analyzing where they come from. More importantly, how do they impact us? And how does one develop a healthy relationship to money? We talked about the two most common money personalities, and what happens when they marry each other. And on a practical note, that is also emotional, how do we handle “retail therapy?” And what about retirement? How does the emotional side of money impact us when we become “work optional?”  People have more time in retirement, so having the resources to put into personal interests is key to happiness. And last, what is money coaching and how is it different than financial planning? So listen in, for a deep dive on emotions and money.

Listen here